Check out the previous posts on recurring conversations and pain points as well as the introduction to the series.
In the past, my tendency was to see an edge in the distance and to do a 180 degree turn in the opposite direction. It didn’t matter if going in the other direction was taking me away from where I was supposed to be – the edge is where I am weak, and so the best plan would be to walk away. This tactic only leaves me in mediocre, frustrated that I am where I’ve always been. I’ve discovered there is another way. What I need to do is that walk to the edge, name the gap and then determine the next brave steps necessary to get from where I am to where I am meant to be. The gap is simply an opportunity for growth. This tactic helps me get unstuck and puts me in motion – towards what I am meant for.
So, I thought it might be useful to
talk about identifying the edges.
So we can identify gaps.
So we can grow into our potential.
An Edge: Envious Moments
Envy has had a lot
to say in the last few weeks.
My recent encounters
with envy include:
a friend’s entrepreneurial success,
friends I know with book contracts,
writers with tons of great content
on their website,
and people I know who took
trips to Bali and Punta Cana.
That’s pretty good list, right?
I sat with the envy a moment,
held each example in my hand
to feel the weight of it.
I turned it over and
examined it.
I discovered that the envy
was made of either
“I wish it was mine”
Or
“You could pursue this:
permission granted.”
So let me break it down for you.
The ‘get on a plane and sit in
the jungle or on the beach’
envious moments
were definitely made of
pure, thick, sticky, stinky envy.
I had to put these down and walk away
because they were heavy and messy.
However, ‘the great content on her site’
and ‘the entrepreneur creating
her own work she loves’
envious moments were made of
permission granted
disguised as envy.
These I held, dissected,
and discovered that
they led me to an edge.
They led me to something
beyond what I think I am capable of
but that is within my
power to pursue.
Who knew growth opportunities
can be disguised as envy?
So I am leaning into these
envious moments that pop into my
mind and heart.
I pause to hold them to see
what they are made of.
To my surprise
I’ve discovered a
brave, more content woman.
What is the envy you are holding? What is it made of? Is it something you need to release or something that can lead you to pursue #PermissionGranted?
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